If you are a single woman over 40, you have a love history. You could be a widow and unsure of ever finding another man like your husband. As a dating coach for women over 40, I know finding love the second time around or even the first is not easy. Still, people fall in love every day and many of my clients do find that loving man. This might seem harsh, but you are likely telling yourself several lies about love after 40 that are hurting you.