You are not allowed to delete your posts and post again if you are not satisfied with the answers. We recommend that you format your posts to make it more readable. This involves splitting up your long posts into paragraphs, and proper punctuation and grammar. If you have an issue with the content on the sub, use the report button or contact the moderators. Attempting to Date as a male, just sucks self. I say attempting because that is actually the case although not due to my efforts, but due to women more on that later and shady guys.
Seems like most singles nowadays are on some kind of dating sites. If you are depressed and lonely, you should probably see a professional who can give you better advice.
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If you travel a lot, you could get a cat. Or get a dog. Dogs are very therapeutic and always happy to see you. All of what you say is true. I am 25 years old. I have a very low paying job where I lucky to work 20 hours in one week. I am also not very good looking. I honestly just want to cry all the time. I just want love, and I just want to be happy. I know exactly how you feel. I have autism too. I was bullied by kids too.
I was also bullied by some of my school teachers and one of my principals. After I graduated I was hospitalized and was in a group home for a while.
This was about 28 years ago. Now I am former member of Crossroads Clubhouse. I also write fiction stories and music. I now have a very special love. Her name is Shannon. Two things come to mind: One is negative and the other is positive but it takes both. One is you got to know your luck. The other is you can never really tell when God may open doors for you.
Anonymous guy Number Two. Well first of all the women of today are very completely different from the old days which very much complicates things for many of us good men still looking to find love today. Most women are very picky now when it comes to relationships since most of the time they really want a man that makes mega bucks and they will never go with a man that makes a lot less money unfortunately. The great majority of the women now are very high maintenance, independent, selfish, spoiled, greedy, picky just like i have mentioned already, narcissists, and very money hungry which tells the whole true story right there.
And it is these type of very pathetic loser women that will only want the very best of all and they will never settle for less either since it is all about money for these women nowadays which makes it very sad. It is these women that are just real users and losers in the first place since they will really take advantage of men that have money anyway just to get the real expensive gifts that these men will buy them.
They will just be very nasty to us most of the time and walk away as well since they usually always look very depressed and mad to begin with anyway most of the time.
And the ones that are always in a hurry will just say to us that i have to go. Like they say it really does take two too tango now.
Why Ms. Independent Can't Find Mr. Right - Annie White - TEDxWilmingtonWomen
And now i can really see why our family members were very blessed when they found one another in those days since it was a very different time for them. Advising guys to actually ask a woman out is telling them to risk being charged with a criminal offence. Just flirting with a woman in Western society could be - and often is - construed as sexual harassment. Added to this, the very real potential for legal issues to arise from my trying to show a woman my interest in her takes it out of the realm of the possible.
If your scared of problems, you will never get anything you want in life. Life is solving problems not avoiding them.
I take good care of myself, am financially successful, own my own place, etc. Do you have any thoughts? Your woman friends would know why you get rejected. They are lying if they say they have no idea. They are women, and they know. Have you done online dating?
You might get better luck asking women out online. Ask your woman friends to look over your profile and choose the best pics for you. I think you are pathetic. Looking through your long comprehensive text I already begin to picture what type of a guy you are. You are not telling us something here my friend. You seem to be complaining on here and looking up answers to your never-ending issues, and that tells me you have no self esteem and you hate yourself. Identify your problem and change it my friend.
Giving up brings nothing but sorrow. Your comment shows how much of a non-empathetic person you are. Who in the hell wants to date someone like you or wants to be friends with someone like you? Nobody cares what a total loser like you thinks, Adam. The OP is obviously a guy who has deep personal issues to work through when it comes to women.
Tbh I wish I could help him - and so would a real man which you are clearly not. And you poke fun at autistic people?!?! Just continue to search until you find the right one. Yep, many of those reasons describe my personality quite well. So, I understand why girls are not in rush to date me. I never had a girlfriend and I will never will. No girl would ever agree to choose me as a her boyfriend. Only if by any chance I became a milliner, which is never going to happen.
I hope I made you laugh a loud. I agree mostly, but not completely. My mom kept going back to my father, even though he was dirty, skinny, lived with his parents and even beat them for drug money. He attacked her with a knife, and threatened to burn the house down while me and my brother were in it. He never had a job beside the army during a civil war. Actually, she was wealthy at the time and supported him. On a personal note, all the girlfriends I ever had were when I was skinny, pounds.
I did not even shower regularly back then, twice a week at most I know, gross and had no job. Well this is very one sided to how the writer see things. You have to be what women WANT you to be. By pretty much being what she wants you to be. Just get heaps of decent p.
No women come to me anyway.
Hi Kate I would never do online dating anymore. Because I was scammed in the past and it hurt my life. After I been through this I felt giving up on women. I never had a girlfriend. I have a square face and big jaw bones. I feel that is not attractive to women on how I look. And a big nose to. I feel they would reject me the way how my face looks. I have been called rude names in the past and it makes me sad. They are not interested in my height.
Or want a man bigger than them. Do you see why I feel like giving up. Can I advice more men to go to escorts and have fun. I this this article is good as it confirms what women are really like. And to the men calling women delusional and picky? Fact guys have it so much easier than girls? If you are a pretty girl, life is handed to you on a plate, guys have to work that ass off just to get some girl to at least smile at them smh. I remember being 18, standing around for a bus, asking a woman who was probably 23 for the time because my phone was dead.
She went off on a rant, apparently perceiving this as a pickup line, and judging me of course unworthy, even though I just wanted to figure out when the next bus was. There are many more stories I can recall right now of that sort. Maybe not exactly too similar of a scenario, but this reminded me of a time when a woman was in my way to refill my 5 gallon water container at a water refill station a few years back.
I thought you were trying to. Women have to realize that most guys are out there putting themselves out there acting like they are into every woman that they decide to break the ice with are really, for the most part, just trying to get a piece from any woman that chooses to give in to their advances.
Women need to get themselves of their thrones already. Their heads have just gotten way too big for their own good. Given the fact that makeup usage has increased over the last few years in excessive amounts it appears that women are really more insecure more than ever before and might be rejecting guys at times just because it makes them feel more powerful.
Just like when guys used to beat on women in the past more commonly years and years ago. Just kind of a release. Just to vent on the weak. Some of these women are losers anyways. Just a bunch of hurt losers. This artical made it seam like women are not actually human at all, that they have no qualities that are valuable or non superficial.
Cant I just be myself and expect that what I am and what I want is good enough for someone? I want to get to know the person she is, her likes and dislikes, her quirks What makes her laugh, her dreams and her nightmares Her flaws and emotional and physical needs, hobbies and interests I want to share time with her. All you need is an attractive, good looking face. A girl can get over all that just as long as you have the looks.
I would agree with this. I have had some very bad rejections with girls being offended and saying that thing has dared to speak to me on more than one occasion.
I often getting chatting to girls for them to say your friend is nice can you introduce me. My female friends never have any avialiable friends for me saying your not there type.
My friends have told me that the problem is that I have an ugly face and no matter what I do I can not change that so I will just have to accept being single. Your article also says the same if you are ugly forget it. Ive tried online dating for 4 years with zero responces to my request, and no views apart from 2 gay men. Any advise would help as I approach my 30th year of being single. I am a young man in his 20s. I consider myself to be very good looking, I have had some ladies ask me if I was a model.
Unfortunately I live in a semi rural part of the northeast and it seems like it isnt so much the rejection I have experienced as it is the lack of dating opportunities available.
I probably am on the shy side though I get an average of girls numbers a month. Now I am aware of the texting rules, limit double texting, never triple text, engage in interesting conversations, whatever. I am also aware of different rules I have picked up from pick up artists like using the cold approach where you talk to random women in public casually and ask them a question or give a compliment or whatever. Im terms of Tinder, I am honestly not a fan of that service, I have gotten my fair share of matches though it goes nowhere even when I iniate the convo and forget about dms on instagram.
Though I feel there is something I am not recognizing. Should I try meet ups? Should I consider looking for older ladies in their 30s and 40s? I also really want to make a good impression on a girl, unfortunately I am finding ladies who simply want to be single. I hope something will work out soon. Hi, you can try some other dating sites as well, like Match, eHarmony or if you are a believer, you could check out some Christian dating sites. So enjoy meeting women look for warning signs especially when drugs and alcohol play a Role and abuse starts get out right away.
So you want me to work my arse off to go on fancy trips, way to expensive dinners, and other bs, then ask the same girl out over and over again, then to top it off dress like a different person act completely diffrent for a tiny relationship.
Whoever wrote this just one message go f. You do realize the one benefit from relationships is sex. This whole complicated process is completely insane. This just seems to much, if anyone wants ass go to a stripclub, hookers, be a pornstar. You get the picture.
And if you get STDs well you should have worn a condom. You know a relationship is temporary insanity cured by marrige. And let me tell You something your absolutely insane. Shell shock may be scary but only you can help yourself forget those horrid expierences.
Not everyone cares for or even wants a grandiose lifestyle. I like a nice quality lifestyle, but try to keep it prudent and within reason. My mother certainly is a selfish b.
How do you know? Were you around? Thought not.
I agree with some of this, like how it sucks to date as a guy and online dating is annoying and not worth the time. However I don't think girls are the real problem. Guys like us are simply not attractive. I think it might be time to give up the dating scene and move on with your life. Aug 24, † If you're dating a woman in , especially a woman who is single in her 40s or 50s, she going to have her own life, her own patterns and her own ideals. Lots of women, for instance, like sex. One way you can find a quality woman on a dating app is by taking a look at her photos and bio. Typically, a woman that is smiling, traveling, and posting healthy activities (as opposed to half naked photos) is a woman you should give an opportunity fatgirlnmotion.com: Apollonia Ponti.
At least with natives you can have a proper conversation. I think one problem is that both men and women view each other as objects too much.
Dec 18, † Shutterstock. If you regularly browse Thought Catalog, you may have read Emmi Jacqueline's post: 6 possible reasons you can't find a nice guy and you probably browsed the comment section to find, as usual, people on both sides of the fence wonder how accurate or judgmental the piece is. There are lots of complaints from women and it's understandable. Some girls are worth the wait, but a lot of them don't want the guys they're not interested in to bother. [Read: 18 foolproof ways to make a great girl fall for you ] Don't sell yourself short because there is at least one girl out there who will appreciate the attention that you give them. Aug 31, † Birger believes that because there are fewer men in the dating pool they are less likely to be committed partners: "Not only does a shortage of men make it statistically harder for women to find a match, but, according to psychologists, sociologists and other scholars who have studied the effects of lopsided gender ratios, oversupplies of.
Heck, if they actually made an effort to try to be friends with each other, rather than hook up, they might actually find themselves in a fulfilling relationship - and by the way, real-life relationships are key. Internet dating is a waste of time. To the first paragraph: I can agree with you that when someone mentions that most women are greedy and so on its mostly irrelevant. To the third paragraph: Germany is not eastern Europe.
The culture in Germany is very different than in eastern Europe, their culture is western. The point in getting a foreign girlfriend is to take a girl from country which is significantly poorer than yours or from one where is more patriarchy, ideally both. Germany does not fulfill this when compared to USA, nor any other country.
So your German mother is not relevant.
The idea of friendship and romantic relationship together sounds really cool, I always thought that and I tried two times, but I ended up in friendzone both times. What I need is an article on 21 reasons or even 1, really on what benefits a woman could bring to my. After reading this, I now have 21 more reasons to avoid them. I would like to have kids one day and kids need mother and father. I think I am in some cts a cool person and it would be nice if there was someone like me even when I die - my kids.
I think I could stop right here, because this is good enough reason to get a girl. When I get home from work tired, it would be really nice to have someone waiting for me, who is glad to see me. Ideally also prepares dinner for me at least from time to time.
Taking care of someone who likes me sounds like something meaningful, I would like to do for most of my life. I want my life to have some deeper meaning. You can kiss her and have sex with her. Other guys get dates, girlfriends, etc. There is zero chance any woman could be sexually attracted to me, so there is no point in trying. Is this only related to young people; A woman I know who is in her fifties, and lost her husband, said she wanted someone who didn;t drink or smoke.
I know another lady who married to someone who is quiet overweight. He was when they met. Women are interesting creatures. When I was 18 I was broke; however, in fantastic shape and could get most women that I wanted. Now, being 24, making well over 6 figures, owning a home, and being in the best shape of my life I cannot find a single girl that works out after the first date.
Maybe my standards are too high. But is it to much to ask for a girl to be good looking, in shape and have a good career? It depends on how you define good looking, how you define in shape and what does a good career mean to you.
Maybe a good thing to do could be to try estimate how many percent of women you see around you, not only the ones you go to dates with, meets your expectations.
Then you can ask yourself the same question and possibly answer it yourself. The girls these days are too shallow. All they care about is looks. They all live in some kind of fantasy world.
Delusional all of them. I leave women alone. I wish ALL men would just stop for a decade or two until the dating world is more equal. Right now it feels mote like looking for a job in a bad economy, women are the employers looking for the perfect employ7ee willing to settle for less. There is no point in guys like me approaching a woman because rejection would be guaranteed every time - and no woman ever approaches me either.
The reason for this is that other guys introvert or extrovert are much more attractive than I ever could be, so as long as there are other guys around, any woman will pick them and ignore me. This is how it is. Well, that pretty much cuts all men on the autistic spectrum out of the picture, how non-inclusive. Ah so only 17 are a real problem for me and 11 of those are hardwired into my personality. Great news! Time to throw myself of the nearest skyscraper?
Bro 20 of them relate to me. Almost 20 yrs ago. She actually had me deleted on her WhatsApp.
But I must come running when they need lift, the cars broken down etc. I give up. The rules of logic do not apply here it seems. With most women nowadays that sleep around with so many different guys all the time which they will never find the time to only stay with one guy anyway.
If only women - including the writer of this article - knew i. I would much rather know women on a friendship level. All I wanted was some balance in the back and forth but it seems women in my world were programmed to respond, never initiate. Would you blame the guys or her for her situation? What process would you suggest she follow to get her ability to trust men back after feeling manipulated for so long by people she thought cared about her? What a waste of my time!
Though for once, a woman is being direct and honest regarding what women truly want the advice given regarding getting a girlfriend is flawed in one simple way. As a young woman it is so interesting reading the comments here, since among my friends in couples it is mostly the women who are the main bread winners something which has just turned out to be coincidence in most cases. The qualities they say they appreciate in their partners tend to be support and the odd romantic gesture.
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Saying all women are gold diggers is maybe akin to saying all men are interested in is sex with young hot girls? I have been single for a yeat and am admittedly a bit cautious about entering a relationship again. The things I am looking for most in a man are intelligence and humour, but it is hard to get talking to people in certain circumstances and I have had no luck online as yet. I am pretty and nice I hope!
Good luck to you. You lost me at working to hard then saying not having any money.
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Living with your parents really? Did you ever think of that Of course you didnt. I feel sorry for any who looks at or looked at you twice. I have tried a lot things that has cost a lot of time and a lot of money. Now I have gotten older and no so optimistic and I have admittedly stop trying. What many do not understand is that if you are in a relationship no to be too general then do not take it for grant it. But understand that not everyone is a magnet.
I am alone, but if I could change it I would. But to those who are not alone understand that not everyone is so fortunate and appreciate what you have easier said than done. But those who want to try to tell that I am not trying hard enough or then you really do not understand and have not even tried to.
There has never been any evidence that any woman has the slightest sexual interest in me, so I never ask women out because rejection is always guaranteed.
Online dating, singles events, and matchmaking services like speed dating are enjoyable for some people, but for others they can feel more like high-pressure job interviews. And whatever dating experts might tell you, there is a big difference between finding the right career and finding lasting love. Mar 13, † And yes, this applies to dating, too, but as Richardson points out, going with a FaceTime or Skype date rather than meeting up in person isn't necessarily going to be the difference-maker in Author: Alex Manley.
Women either ignore me or only want to be a friend. Does that mean I have nothing? I have a prominent position in the most prestigious musicians group of my high school. There are more important things other than getting laid, people.
Well with most women nowadays that are very pathetic low life mentally disturbed losers altogether which makes it very difficult for many of us men really looking for an honest relationship today. Most women now have no manners at all to begin with, and a very horrible personality to go along with it as well.
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And God forbid for many of us men just trying to start a normal conversation with a woman that we would really like to meet has really become so very dangerous for us now as well since many of these women will be screaming sexual harassment. And i had a woman that Cursed at me for no reason at all when all that i have said to her was good morning and how is your day going.
And i know other friends that had similar experiences with these type of women as well. So it is very obvious why so many of us men are still single today with all these type of women around that are very much too blame. Think of walauigi, except without the fanbase. Women are genetically programmed to go for dumb muscle Man.
Which was necessary in BC, but in civilised Societies females have to be guided by an authority when choosing partners. Otherwise they are picking the wrong dudes an create degenerate offspring. I hate my life. I will never get the girl of my dreams. So what is the point anymore? When ever I stare at someone at the mall they gave me an angry face. What is the point if the one I pick gives me the angry face look? In my case, there is zero evidence to support this claim. My question is, if I NEVER get signals from any woman, why should I bother approaching at all - since rejection is literally guaranteed every time?
Most women are just very stuck up and very pathetic altogether now unfortunately which most women in the past were certainly Real Ladies and very easy to meet with no trouble at all, and they really were totally the opposite of today which does really have a lot to do with it unfortunately. They are highly compliying creatures, listen to what society tells them, who only follow their emotions, and an ordinary men in their eyes is not presentable.
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Women are more interested in what other women think above all else. It is all unconcious nature at work. But once you have a rather firm grasp on yourself and what you want, it will be easier to get it.
If one of your priorities is a girl who is economically independent, leave her if she gets dependent on you. If you want a nice date, make it a priority to yourself. Find the goodness of this moment-in a book, in powerful words, in a comforting image, through the writers and artists you love and all that you hold dear. This will get you through. Reblogged this on ohhellobritty. Why the hell did I do that? Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday.
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Unrealistic expectations It happens. This one is the same for boys and girls. You end up with a fixer upper This one ties in a lot with the previous point. You equate asshole personalities with masculinity Remember that talk about expectations? More From Thought Catalog. Hidradenitis Suppurativa. Get our newsletter every Friday! You're in! Follow Thought Catalog. Post to Cancel. You might not be a low-level sexist who thinks women are decorative and sweet and gets annoyed when they want sex.
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