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But sociopaths can be charismatic and some symptoms of their condition, like being impulsive and persuasive and shunning social norms, can be attractive in some situations. A quick primer: A sociopath is someone who has antisocial personality disorder-a condition that causes them to lack empathy, be exploitative in close relationships, indifferent to the needs of others , entitled, and lack remorse for the bad things they do and say-according to clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula , PhD, author of Should I Stay or Should I Go? For the record, being a sociopath isn't something you can fix on your own. Antisocial personality disorder is often hard to treat, and sociopaths usually don't think they need help. While that can be attractive at first, it can cause some serious issues down the road, especially if it involves criminal behavior. Sociopaths have trouble forming and maintaining any kind of relationship with others. Doing things on impulse can be exciting at first impromptu trip to Tahiti?

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There are no other posts, other than this flurry of tweets on this day. But his actions never match his words. He will promise you the world but never make good on any one of his promises. His ego is larger than life and he seeks the attention of all.

When you approach him on even the smallest lie, he goes into a rage of how good he is to you and all he has done for you, which is another lie.

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He says that you are the love of his life but always puts you second. Second choice, second in line, second best. He removes every person from your life as a way to control you, as he is the only one who is truly your soul mate - according to him. He is the life of the party, the centre of attention. Always looking to see who is looking at him, to give him the attention he so desires.

He cries his woes to make you feel sorry for him, as a way to control your need to help him with his self created problems.

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We argued and I ended up apologizing for being paranoid and crazy. We discussed him finding another place to rent where I would be welcome. By this time he was supposed to be closing escrow on his house in a month or so. There were lots of offers and things had fallen through several times but finally the offer was accepted and he was in escrow so why spend a lot of money renting.

He moved in with his son he said about 45minutes away and his son that lived in town was still borrowing his car. Somehow he always had the car for work that started at am until 6pm. He swore he was telling the truth.

He took me to see the house he said was in escrow. It had a lock box on the door. He said he talked to his lawyer and it was filed and going to be final. This after I had tried to break it off several times and he would say just stick with me. He showed a coworker divorce papers sealed by the court from supposedly.

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Saying we never had a relationship. I have no idea where it will end. In hindsight I was groomed. He saw when I was vulnerable and took the opportunity to tell me what I wanted to hear. He came on strong, appeared attached quickly and intimate quickly. He was grandiose, and extremely sexual and complimentary. But it was all lies. No kids in tow so he really has no reason to be there. I was a widow and had not even gone out anywhere for five years.

I decided I needed to do something to improve my life so I went on-line and met someone. Not having been in the dating pool for 30 years, I was reluctant to meet this man who was consistently messaging me.

We talked on the phone for a couple of months for hours. He seemed so caring and so like me. We met and we were together constantly except when he was working. He worked a lot of weekends and that was ok with me. He was always waiting to get paid for a contract so he used my credit cards and I paid for everything. At one point I bought him a new cell phone and when I looked at his old one, I saw a number that he phoned all the time and it was all hours of the day and night.

I phone it and in the end it was a woman with whom he lived and that was where he was on weekends. So she dumped him and he made me feel like I was the winner.

So he praised me and made me feel like a queen and a winner. He said he was a self employed contractor from Edmonton so he said and was only in the area because he returned to see his dying mother. A month or two later, I noticed he was always phoning and getting calls from a Dr Lady whom he said he was working. He said she was very controlling and called him constantly because she wanted to know everything he was working on for her.

He even invited me to her house to see what he was doing there when she was at her office and he was doing her roof and had more jobs to do for her.

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He would have me drop him off there at 6 am to work and show her what he would do that day and I would wait at the coffee shop and he would call me to pick him up when she left. Finally, I called her and it turned out he also had lived there with her as her husband was not around either.

Again, he chose me. He had been telling her he had another job to work at when he was with me and reverse to me so both of us thought he was working hard all the time but really he had no job except what he was doing at her house when he was there. He was a very charming and convincing person and I wanted to believe him.

I was so stupid! He then spent all his time with me. Even here he managed to cultivate more women. He would insist I visit my family and then discourage me coming back by promising a surprise he was working on and I would have to stay away another couple of weeks.

I never caught on now. I am now living in a very remote area, no neighbours, no friends and no money and a huge mortgage. He has cancer and needs me to look after him but is still doing his thing. He is in the city and has an apt near the hospital and I am here in the wilds. I love the peace and serenity of the area but am so isolated that is is depressingly lonely. My sons are my only contacts and they phone me frequently but i am desperately lonely and depressed.

It turns out he has a criminal record for a violent crime although he has been very gentle with me and never have I felt he might be violent. I have no neighbours and I am miles from any towns. I have no human contact for weeks on end. Real estate sells slowly here so it would be a couple of years if I could sell this place. I hate it that I have been so naive and kept thinking he would change and even enabled him to do this to me.

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He will be coming home from the hospital in a month or so and I have to decide if I can let him and if not, can I survive here alone. My sons are not able to provide me with accommodation and I am too ashamed to let them know what I have gotten myself into.

I just want to give up on everything! There is no light at the end of my tunnel! Thank you for sharing your story Linda. There IS light at the end of the tunnel. But I was bereaved when I met him, My daughter had died the year before. It sounds like you feel trapped? Let me tell you something. I can promise you that learning self love, is the best gift that you will ever give yourself.

You met him at a vulnerable point in your life. You say that he will be home from the hospital in a month. Use this time to focus on you. It will help you. Feeling trapped is what he counts on. You are not trapped. You just need two things. Hope and opportunities. While I am unable to create opportunities for you, I can offer you hope, that in terms of your connection to him, you can heal and recover.

It can be a distant memory. But it wont be a distant memory if you stay. I know it seems hard to move on, and can be scary. It might even force you again to deal with your bereavement, perhaps something you do not want to go through again. But this is normal and healthy. Again, therapy can help you with this. I understand what you are saying, about being too ashamed to speak to your sons. Because you are not. I and many others, got out, and you can too. If you can, please seek out therapy it will empower you.

Thank you for your support. I appreciate it. We moved to a remote area and I have no contact with people here. They will not socialize with me although I have tried even volunteering at the local churches. It is so isolating here.

I phone to hire someone to clear my driveway and I have the cash to pay for it but they say they will do it but never come. It is not conducive to healing or becoming anything but more lonely and more bitter.

I am doing it all on my own but a recent heart attack has limited my abilities and I notice I am not as physically strong as I was but I am managing more or less but not emotionally. I am not near a city so it is not easy to get to professional help and the cost is not something I can afford at this time.

I do have a dog and the loyalty and love she gives me is my only current salvation. I am lucky to have her. I relate with the dog. I live with my cat. Me, and my cat. It kind of works well that way. It might be, that you are trying too hard. Only our normal has been very distorted. Your faith and belief in yourself has gone. Likely, due to him and his abuse of you, and his constant gaslighting.

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Which will distort your view of the world. I know I was walking around, probably a year or two later with his lense of the world. So what about your house?

Have you thought about where you would like to move to? Or is fear holding you back? Sometimes we can stay still, even though we want to move on, as we simply do not know how to move forward. Or the fear of the unknown, makes us stay still. This is particularly true for those who have been abused. Or perhaps you are half and half. Half wanting to move forward. This will keep you stuck.

Maybe, just try to do one thing. Each day. ONE thing, nothing major, and this will help you to see that you are making progress. Otherwise it is disheartening feeling like you keep trying but nothing is really working out?

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People online? You can do this Linda. I am not going to say that it will be easy. I want to tell you this. As this is VERY important. Maybe right now the reason things are not moving forward the house sell happening, is because he would take from you, until there was nothing left? As that can happen. Sometimes there are blessings that we cannot see ourselves. CUT the caring. PUT ur Will somewhere else. I have known him for years and we just began dating a few months ago and he moved in shortly after.

How do I end things and get him to move out of my house? I do feel as though I am the only one there for him and he has inconsistent income. Being a Christian it is hard to give up on him, but I know this is what I need to do. Please help or direct me to an article that may help me end things. The one thing that I read was that one needs to consider them self in a cult of two. These men or women use mind control and are very manipulative. You have to make it out or it will just continue the way it is and not get any better and probably definitely get worse.

They have a way of making you feel sorry for them and that is part of their game. This man drained me of so much money he moved in really quickly and controlled me. Time you spend with them is wasted time and time that you could be spending on building a healthy relationship.

Nov 03,   The word " sociopath " tends to bring to mind someone who is so self-absorbed and exploitative of other people-someone you probably would never want to date. But sociopaths can be charismatic and.

You have to start valuing yourself and realize that you deserve more. That movie has helped me put the whole thing in perspective.

If you watch it, it will help you see and help you be stronger to resist staying with your sociopath. I watch it everytime I feel lonely. Good Luck! I am going to write a post response to your comment Stacy as you raise an important point.

I want to think about what to write. As where you are right now, many are either still there, and feeling trapped. Or question whether they have the strength to leave. Stacy, How did things change once you started dating and him living there? Just curious - may also give clues to how to pull away. Is he really clinging to you, are you supporting him? If he is NS or S - he may not leave until he finds someone else to provide what you are providing.

I survived a relationship with a SP. It gets better I promise you. Run, read, surf, yoga, go out, see friends, get drunk, laugh, then run some more and read more still. Engage with yourself, you will enjoy making yourself happy. Eventually you will be free and although you may never again feel quite the same high that he gave you, you will know by now that that was all fake, and the happy you find in yourself now is all real.

He stole the best parts of you to masquerade behind them. You ARE that amazing person, not him. During all that time you thought you loved him, you actually only loved all the best parts of yourself. You are not a victim.

You are a survivor and he is just a sad empty parasitic shell looking for the next host. Be glad for your experience and take it with you, but move on and love yourself. I find this difficult to write. My 3 year relationship with my boyfriend ended horrendously 6 weeks ago on my birthday evening.

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We met on a dating site, he was the most polite man that wrote to me, had a good sense of humour etc. At first all was well but he kept saying if I left him, he would never go out with another girl again. He kept telling me to promise not to leave him. I said, as long as he treated me nicely, I would stay. He said he wanted to share all my life, my work, my family, my friends, and I did, though they secretly didnt like him much.

I did meet them all, and he was quite rude to me infront of them. He also told me that his sister who he is very close to, was jealous of his x girlfriends. And was probably the cause of his breakup with the one before me. I met his sister, he made me pay for my own dinner yet he paid his and hers. I met his lovely x wife the mother of his 2 adult daughters and he then proceded to tell me where the children were conceived It was embarassing.

He criticised me so much, first it started with my body although I have an athletic figure of cm tall and 60 kgs in weight I agree he has a very young body, does sports, looks younger than he is etc.

Then went on to my face, how I should use lots of cream then my work, then my home said I should get rid of useless decoration be tidier etc Then criticised my friends, then the last thing was my children and my own personality.

In short it wasnt always bad but when it was bad it was very bad. I actually think he knows he does have a problem. He started writing to a girl he met on internet socila site not dating taliking about his Past lives which I think he blames for the way he is, big temper, critical, judgemental Anyway, a week before my birthday, he was writing on the computer screen and hid the woindow from me. I think he did it deliberately as I only spend 30 minutes in that room a day and he always had the custom to write from his phone.

I think he wanted me to be suspicious. On my birthday- in the evening, he started going on about this girl so much that I said it sounded like he was interested in her.

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He was calm and said no he thought that she was a hippi with her head in the sky the tyoes he hated Then after a calm dinner- he asked if I was jealous, I said I wasnt jealous, I was suspicious, because of what I had seen the week before and hadnt told him at the time He said he understood and that he would show me the emails between him and her. I was so sad, and felt stupid, I at first said no.

But he went on so I said I wanted to see them. He went crazy. He insulted me big time, swore and shouted and told me to get my stuff and he would drive me home.

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I asked why get like that if nothing to hide and that I had never mistrusted him before. I seroiusly thought he was trustworthy in that way. Anyway- after me throwing my bags in a fit of temper and breaking a glass with frustration I do not throw things as a norm, and am never aggressive he drove me home on the condition he let me read the emails at my house.

Its true he took a long time to park the car- and could have deleted some- but even if he didnt, the emails were all about him telling about himself, his house, his animals, how he had lots of free time, lived alone, how he could teach her some punches he does kick boxing and yet she offerd very little about herself and didnt seem atall interested in him.

He never mentioned he had a girlfriend. They talked alot about lives past and books- and he claimed he couldnt speak to others about this his sister was always interested in this and he spoke to her about it. Anyway- I had offered to apologise if the emails were all innocent on his behalfbut when I had read them there were lots of emails, about 3 a day lots written after he had told me was going to bed I said I could and would not apologise, because it was clear to me, he was trying to make her interested and also told lies about himself saying he was peaceful and lived in the here and now which is ridiculous if you ask anyone that knows him.

Well- we broke up- he didnt treat me very nicely sometimes, examples given above though sometimes he did. Sex wasnt good because I always had the feeling there was no emotion on his part- so I lost interest.

When I said he didnt love me, he would get very angry but I always said to him that actions speak louder than words.

I feel a fool, and damaged. I am getting better now, I go to Tai Chi, whcih relaxes me and do belly dancing that gives me confidence. It is very difficult for me. He is getting on with life now. He has now blocked me again and I hope it satys that way.

I am not really sure if I am strong enough not to contact him if he unblocks me. If you are so inclined, I highly recommend writing down your thoughts as you move through the separation escape process. At the time I did it to get out all of those things I could never say to S because I could hardly get in word and would get attacked verbally. I would also write about things that transpired and how I reacted. Putting it on paper helped me review and see things clearly.

So I came across some writings and read them. I was so surprised that I had actually forgotten some of the things that happened back then. At the time, I thought I would feel the way I felt forever.

Jul 25,   When you think of a "sociopath," chances are you think of a serial killer or a con man in a movie. But chances are you've met a sociopath - after all, according to Harvard psychologist. Dating a sociopath, having any type of relationship with a sociopath, is usually a shallow, confusing, one-sided experience. "Having a psychopath [or sociopath] in your life can be an emotionally draining, psychologically debilitating, and sometimes physically harmful experience" (Babiak & Hare, ). It can be hard to sink in that Mr or Mrs Perfect that you have been dating is actually a sociopath. You might search the internet looking for answers. You come up with a list of traits from the DSM about sociopaths, and you question is he/she really a sociopath?

Part of the writing was at the time when I started calling S out on his behavior and no longer gave in to his histrionics and manipulation. I counted the times I said no to his requests. Felt good. Actually, I was only being nice to get back things he took from me. I wrote how even though on SM they seemed all loved up, he devalued her when he talked to me. There I was, seeing the cycle happen right before my eyes. It was confirming. I remember at the time feeling badly for her - she had no idea who he really was.

I was glad I could read all that and know it was truly in the past!! Maybe this will work for someone else too. I imagine he has blocked me anyway, but just in case, I dont send them. I read them the next day, and change a few things, delete a few thingsdepending on how I feel when reading them.

This works very well for me. It means I can vent out my feelings, which I never felt I could with him directly, because of his temper.

And also because the few times I did he said he felt sorry I felt hurt, but it was my problem, not his. He wasnt sorry or worried for being the culprit. I am beginning to accept that he may be a narcisstic sociopath though in my mind I find it hard to accept that someone can be so cruel, when its much easier to be kind, pleasant and truthful.

It requires much less effort and brings much more happiness.

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Anyway I think this is the end as I told him he was a narcisistic sociopath by text. I didnt specify that they werent impressed with him, the situation, or the relationship And he blocked me. As I said in my first post. I hope to god it stays this way. I am not quite sure if I am strong enough yet. I think I may be safe.

I think it is a good idea to write the emails. You know he would only lie and continue the game if you tried to have contact with him. Only way forward is to go no contact.

Anything else keeps you in their game. Just ended a transaction with a sociopath with narcissistic traits. He was so charming, funny, helpful, great to talk tonot the typical guy I would usually be physically attracted to. But he definitely did great with the mask and mirroring me. He loved everything I did and had the same goals as me, the love bombing was on full blast red flag He spied on me and studied me carefully via social media and at work.

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He asked me a lot of questions about myself. Quickly he talked about loving me and wanting me to move into his apartment. He displayed weird behaviors though, he would talk about his exes all the time and how they hurt him big time and how karma would get them. He would always talk about how women wanted him and how people were jealous of him. He displayed the grandiose attitude, yet when the mask would fall off it was a different man.

He talked about suicide, the horrible things he has done, his karma, and how he battled his demons. He would often say why someone like me would be with him that I was a good girl, beautiful, smart, and great personality.

He showed me a photo of her and said they were close friends. I called him out on his behaviors and he got so mad at me. He would apologize and say that he really liked me and wanted to be with me but that I needed to be a good girl. I apologized to him and we were on again. He was good for a while and again he would display weird behaviors and say odd things.

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I asked him if he was a sociopath and he freaked out on me. He was telling me that I was mean and that I accused him of horrible things and thought of him as a monster.

I was in love w this guy and felt attached to him. My behaviors were over the top because he caused so much confusion, stress,and I was sleep deprived. I felt depression, anger, sadness, and overall darkness. I begged him to give me another chance and that I was so sorry for my words and for hurting him.

Signs of Dating a Sociopath Include Lots of Disappointment Being used by a pathological predator involves being stood up with lame explanations or no explanation. If we're dating a sociopath they might make a date with us and show up two hours late, or not at all. After that, they're mad that we're mad, and madder that we ask about it. I do not think that is possible. The definition of a sociopath reads as follows, a person with a psychopathic personality whose behavior is antisocial, often criminal, and who lacks a sense of moral responsibility or social conscience. To be in a relationship suggests care for the other person sociopaths do not care for anyone. Mar 04,   The sociopath is a sex addict and even in love will lust everywoman while he is away from home, or even within the presence of his love. The sociopath will make sickening eye contact with every woman just to verify his power over her and he usually wins at his game.

I ended up apologizing for his behaviors. He made up a story that he had to be away for a few months. He became cold as iceone word answers to my texts. Huffington Post. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. Having an oversized ego. Lying and exhibiting manipulative behavior. Exhibiting a lack of empathy. Showing a lack of remorse or shame.

Staying eerily calm in scary or dangerous situations. Behaving irresponsibly or with extreme impulsivity. Having few friends. Being charming-but only superfically. Living by the "pleasure principle. Showing disregard for societal norms. Having "intense" eyes. No thanks. Important conversations are happening now. Add your voice! Join fatgirlnmotion.com Today! Calling all fatgirlnmotion.com superfans!

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