When my year-old son told me he was bringing his new girlfriend home to meet me, I chilled the wine and whacked a chicken in the oven. Clearly they were getting serious and I was so pleased and excited. Until he arrived home with a year-old woman. I opened the door to stare into a visage nearly as lined as my own. My own smile froze. I then noticed we were also wearing similar outfits.
Think about it. Do you judge a woman on her looks? Men date women half their age and nobody raises a judgmental brow. Just look at the flak directed at Macron for marrying a woman 24 years his senior.
Donald Trump is 24 years older than Melania but their age difference rarely rates a mention. I want to rewrite The Graduate and make sure Mrs Robinson gets to keep her college boy. After all, we mature females have biology in our favour - the male of the species hits his sexual prime in his late teens; a woman in her late forties. Let me put it this way, 19 goes into 50 a hell of a lot more than 50 goes into The woman my year-old son brought home may have been 48, but she was also young at heart, attractive and intelligent.
But the experience did give me a brainwave. My lovely son Jules is on the autistic spectrum, which means girls his own age can sometimes find him too quirky, while older women have always been drawn to his wit and warmth. And for Jules, if a woman is witty and warm, age has always been irrelevant. As young autistic males tend not to be facially prejudiced and older, wiser females can think outside the neurotypical box, why not put them together?
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I'm 41 years old lady, and have always been attracted to older guys since I was 18, my first boyfriend was 34 and I was just 18 years old and when I was. 34 years old I dated a 62 year old man and had a very good sex life, at that time that's what I needed but now at. 41 years old what I craved is companionship, affection not so much just sex. While it's not from the current day, I'll point out the story of Mary Schenley, who eloped with a 43 year old cavalry officer at the age of 15 and apparently was happy with him thereafter (they had seven children), though they did have various pr. Sep 11, Of course. I mean girls are very attractive in their 20s. So like duh! Lol okok seriously. Hi I'm Amber Rose, I'm 26 from Northern California and I've been in a.
Ayesha Hazarika. Rohan Silva. Ellen E Jones. Laura Weir. Tottenham Hotspur. I wish you all the luck. Be happy enjoy that young man. Absolutely truewell im 50 and he is 24 he is so amazing guy and age is no matter as long he is caring and trust we together for year he is a wonderful love not in bed Love is import and our love is beautiful and great communication each otherhe is crazy over and love my heart.
If both are of legal age, then age means nothing! Many women have dated and married men MUCH younger and have been very happy with it. Ladies, if you have this chance then why not enjoy? Forget what others might think or say! Most of them would do the same. For centuries men have married women who were very young and it is accepted, its time for us women to have equal billing!!
I find myself lost in conversation with him and he is smart, witty, polite, caring and wonderful on so many levels. I have no children yet and I want some, he also wants to have children with me.
Men do it all the time, why such a stigma for an older woman and younger man? I think God put us in a place to meet for a reason and I can see myself falling head over heels for him every second of the day. I find myself speaking to men my age and loosing interest. I think love wins above all. I hope to read a story about long lasting love despite age. I am 43 years old and presently in love with a 25 years old guy.
I am african ethnicity and he is an Indian. I totally agree I am dating a 24 yr old lovely man I am My daughters are getting used to the idea. I live with them. I dont know what the future holds. He is just lovely. I love the fact i am not the only one that something like this. I am 35 my man is 20 and when i found out i was surprised.
He was much more mature then my x that was 35 and any of the older men that tried to pursue me. I dont look 35 so it caught him by surprise when he found out my age. We have a strong connection. We want the same things in a relationship, we are the same when it comes to standards, values, raising.
I was amazed at this. I know! HEfeels secure. I can admit I had a difficult time during my early stages of marriage. Women who rise from a broken up family tend to be better in time. It is about both feeling in love and starting from zero to building a good future and happy life and most importantly happiness and always communication and solve any problems together. I have a very close friend in her early 50s who looks AMAZING for her age, plays bass in a rock band, is a very lively active woman with lots of young interests.
She is approached by younger guys, guys in their late 20s, ALL the time for dates. She goes out with some of them. She falls in love with some of them. Until a few months goes by. They want to settle down and have a real serious girlfriend they can take home to mom, and all of a sudden it starts to weird them out that my friend could BE their mom.
They love hanging with her but are often embarassed to bring her around their friends. And it brings a lot of depression to my friend. So, in my opinion, stay within your age range and steer clear of the youngins. They just want to play. Thanks for putting it into the words I needed. It all depends on the person. The young ones are more progressive and I like that.
Quite right there you are. Age is just a number while is a legal age. I hope you find the right one and both live happily ever after as I am with my younge Fiancee soon to be husband and we are both in love, we respect each other and communicate a lot and solve problems together. Our bonds have became more stronger and we are proud of each other. We are starting from Zero to the top.
We were friends, then best friends and now about to get married. All the best and enjoy the activities you do. Go girl x. I love the same activities too btw. I hope you find that someone who loves you and appreciated you for who you really are and live happily ever after and remember age is just a number as long it is a legal age x. Please do not give up. I was 25 when I met my wife who was then then Neither of us is the slightest worried by that fact, and we have travelled over all of Europe and to America.
Keep your figure, your sense of humour, and be ready to try new things. There is a younger man out there for you if you want him!!
Thank you David for such a beautiful story. I am 46 and look He has pursued me knowing my age, but I have resisted because of my belief that this could never work. I am now rethinking it.
Thanks David for the feedback and it really puts things in perspective for me. Live and Let Live I say!
Thinking about it today. I feel you. Then I found out, the 38 yr old I was living with for a while. Then I found someone my own age. He ended up being a shady liar. I thought I could keep it casual. We both have feelings for each other, but he thinks we are doomed.
Think, that 25 year old woman dating 45 year old man remarkable, rather
And it can be hard to turn them down. They are a lot of fun, and the sex is great.
Have fun with it. I can totally relate. I am just giving up. I feel your heart.
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My experience has been similar. No thanks to Mr. I will have to learn to enjoy aloneness. I was 44 when I met my now-husband. He was The year age difference has made very little difference in our relationship. He is kind of an old soul and had no desire to have kids. I am entering my peak years, starting to think about retiring in ten years if all goes well, and he is still in the building phase.
He has more energy than I do, but not enough to create problems. That said, we are only 11 years apart, not twenty-five. Would I have dated a year-old when I was 43?
Guys in their twenties were, to me, terribly earnest and always seemed to be trying to prove how cool and mature they were. It usually wound up being more amusing to me than anything.
But if this particular guy you are impressed with wants to take you out on a date, go. What do you have to lose? You never know who the great love of your life is going to be. I truly do expect to be with him until death do us part. I believe men have a biological clock too. Something to think about when contemplating dating someone much younger with LTR in mind. Also, at any age you might find you relate well to an individual s who are much younger, but come to find out not on every level.
Each relationship lasted less than 2 yrs. If a dalliance is okay go for it. But if you are wistful for someone to grow old with, dating out of your generation is not an ideal place to look.
For both genders. If I go to match. Adoption takes years of bureaucracy and frustration. That is what I am looking for. To both posts about fertility being gone in a women who is are you guys kidding me?
I am 44, almost 45, still have a period and am still fertile. And yes you are right.
We have different cultures but shes older then me with a gap of 19 years. Sure, the risks are higher in every ct, but it is not impossible. I think one the biggest issues would be starting fresh. Raising a baby when you have adult kids over I think giving someone much younger a chance is ok, just go in with an open mind knowing the relationship might end faster than expected.
You never know, maybe the guy might change their mind about having kids. I have been a single soul parent for a few years, as well as busy building my business and put romance on the back burner so to speak until. I am a youthful, active, attractive, happy, fun and healthy single Mom with two boys ages 11 and I have enjoyed conversations with a 25 year old over the last 8 months as attractive and enjoyable our brief encounters, never did I consider a potential anything past talking due to his age - we are 26 years apart.
We have since had a total blast enjoying our time together on every level we take it one day at a time as well as touch basis with our emotions one day at time For now, we keep this new path in our relationship private and from my children as well.
Our friendship is most cherished first and foremost, but My Goodness the intimacy, the sex, the love making - what a TOTAL pleasurable blast - I have had more fun and have felt more comfortable than ever in my adult life.
We are both aware that anything could change at any time such as Life in Generaland assure one another through open communication. I had my son at 43 with no problem at all. Its a gamble at any age. Just higher percentage as we age. I think women in the range you mentioned would feel the same.
Looking good, feeling healthy and wishful thinking do not make a baby. Im I know one who had 22! Most of these women were over forty when giving birth to the last ones. If was not a rare thing at all. Everyone is not the same. This is some women not all. Mind over matter I say. This is an absolutely shocking reply. What utter, complete bollocks! We are not a statistic, we are individuals. We are all different. Were you may be referring to a different statistic? Or maybe were you referring to women in their late forties?
I actually know at least half a dozen women who have had unassisted pregnancies in their early forties without incident. My wife had unassisted pregnancies at 41 and almost Unfortunately, the numbers precipitously drop after that.
IN many countries and even here my aunts grandmother was having 10 plus kids past the age of 50 and all were healthy and strong including her. Ask any eskimo or explorernaturally the earth warms up and cools down every so often.
As women have become more sexually liberated, our bodies are adapting and responding in a way where we are staying fertile for longer periods of time. Our eggs are not aging as fast as they used to before the 50s and 60s.
A 45 year old can have FSH levels of a year old. There are many infertile young women age who have FSH levels of a 45 year old. However, that said, IVF success goes down significantly after Here, read this, and instead of keeping up the delusion that your FSH levels can singlehandedly make you fertile at age 45, get your facts straight. Get out of the books sweetheart and open your eyes.
These people are sharing real life experiences and your throwing around info out of a book, Internet or wherever else you get them. After all, my car was broken into on Tuesday! Evan is correct. Fertility starts declining rapidly at At 45 you may have normal FSH follicle stimulating hormone levels, but all that indicates is that you are likely still ovulating.
What neither disclosed is that they were very likely to have used donor eggs. And I get that. But it sure did give the public the wrong impression about what is possible.
Male chauvinist propaganda wants women to believe this. Statistics are skewed. Men need to stop thinking they are so frigging invinsable. Chew on that sour grape for a bit. Women had babies very late in life many years ago. In fact we are more susceptible to pregnancy because of our age and twins at that! If you are healthy strong and menstruating you are definitely fertile! Whether or not it happens for any woman of any age is not in the least bit dependent on you Evan, what you think, believe or read in a book.
Worry about yourself Genius!!! This is my job. If you do not like my facts or opinions, you are welcome to look elsewhere for free guidance. Happy holidays!
Googling fertility statistics for something women is enlightening. I suggest the author of this article revisits google and revises his biased opinion. Sorry that reality angers you. The problem, of course, is that the only person hurt by your willful misunderstanding of female fertility is you. My OB told me that fertility stats are for regular women, averages.
He says I am not a regular woman. I never imagined being with a woman 17 years my junior. Not that it was out of the question, it just never entered my mind that I would be with a woman much younger than myself. We enjoy each other very much. Moreso me than her at the moment I Love her and want to spend what time I have left in this life soley with her.
We have Many things in common, one of which, would be Very difficult to replicate. I have asked her if she has seen anyone else since we met and she told me no. That is reassuring, but I am very paranoid that she may toss me to the curb for another, possibly, younger guy.
This inspires me. I met him when I was 21 and he was So reading through most of the replies kind of makes me sad of course. We have so much in common and we have so much fun together. But I love the life I share with him. Reading through the comments makes me sad again when I think about surein 20 years I will be 43 and he will be Good luck to you and your man. If both of you are clear about the most likely temporary nature of your relationship more power to you. Most relationships with a large age gap, whether the man or woman is older, tend not to last.
Eventually that age difference starts to matter. No one is immune to time. We get slower and less healthy. Things may be all fun and laughs now but when you turn 33 and start to think about the fact that he is 60 you may feel very differently about the relationship.
At that point you may decide an attractive and vibrant 40 year old better suits your lifestyle, but your current man may not want to let you go. Thank you very much.
Consider, that 25 year old woman dating 45 year old man apologise
Thanks again. My relationship with kind of been bumy. This comment really bothers me. As if men can only agree or see relevance when their age group or kind is the exact type of men referenced. They are willing to throw away long loving relationships with women for a night of lust.
Men this age will chest and justify it like no other age group. Risking family life and hurting his partner. You have to beg these men to get std test because they act as if their fragile little ego is so offended by something they should do anyway.
They have never dealt with adversity. The slightest hardship will result in a nervous breakdown and the woman will be stuck babying them back to their male privilege health. They are fake cultured. They travel the globe and take Snapchat but know nothing of the culture or people that they visit other than to sound pseudo cultured. They think experimenting with drugs is a romantic activity.
No matter what socioeconomic class. Older men are men. They are decisive. They know how to open doors, let a woman relax, be sensitive when needed and string where it counts. Millennial men are ridiculous and also now highly feminized.
I will pass! Material issues. Faster, easier, sex. I think you have a great point. But I have to add older men are better in bed too. I was 23 and my ex was 36and yes he robbed the cruddle.
25 year old woman dating 45 year old man
He wanted to mold me to what he wantedthe only trouble there is, I did grow up. As for daddy issues. My dad was never around at my young age. I seriously had more fun with my ex. And the young shall grow. Write back when he is That made me roll my eyes a bit. Honestly, why go out with a much older man if you still have to work hard to please him!
Surely the pay off of going out with a much older man is that he is working very hard to please you!! So a 13 year age gap is a daddy issue? He was still in your age range! Alot of men dont even have wives or kids yet at that age or are just settling down He cant even be your daddy cause hes 12 or 13 yrs older than you. On another note most ppl over 45 shouldnt show much of an age difference so make that over Your spouse is still a young adult now so no need to worry about that now.
Youre both adults I think its a a little immature for a man over 28 to date a girl under 24 but its nothing that bad hes barely over 35 I know alot of immature guys in their late 20s and 30s that only date and hang around ppl in thier early 20s. On the latter one of older seeking younger ad 6. And whose doing is that? And yes you can appreciate your dad. Even if it starts out that way, the youngin will grow and realize the folly of youth. Better make sure she has no financial assets to take care of herself.
If you are very rich, she will still leave you and collect alimony. People can find others their own age to appreciate. Unless you are a movie star or famous person, keep dreaming. Appreciation is not a reason to get married. We both care for each other,and we never talk about our age we just live life one day at a time. Does she have the opportunity to become everything she possibly can be in life while in a relationship with you? I am 31 and my guy is 48, I am a nurse and he is a CEO of a company.
When we first met I never asked how much he made or cared. I felt drawn to him and he was so funny and fun. The first night we met I ended up taking care of him because he had got really sick. He was really embarrassed, the following weekend we met up at a 4 day concert event where our love story began. I usually get along better with people that are older due to my views and values in life. He is better in bed than ANY guy I have ever been with and he loves so passionately.
He is kind, sensitive, smart, caring, and fun! I appreciate this man and love him with all of my heart. I simply feel a deep connection to him and I know he feels the same way. We connect on an emotional level, a physical level, and a mental level. In life that is almost near impossible to find and there are people out there who never get to experience that with someone else. I was lucky enough to find that someone for me.
How well two people work together and understand one another. How that person brings out the best in you and wants the best for you. I could have a guy from many age groups.
I go by what is right for me and for my guy. We have ups and downs like anyone else. That is normal. We grow and learn along the way. Life is so short and we are not promised tomorrow. Others may and have that right to their own opinions. Thanks for the interesting read.
What about when he ends up in a nursing home, are you going to be his carer? Now we are both retired and we are closer than ever. My own dad was affectionate with his 3 daughters but it was clear that my mom was his girl. That is what I got. My ex left me for a 22 year md singer and dancer. He was I was shocked that he he married her. She had nothing to give him.
She took my home belongings, had an Invitro baby.
And 25 year old woman dating 45 year old man think, that you
I never had closure. May she have the dump of her life. Why are you mad at her and not him? The sense of entitlement this woman displayed was truly unbelievable. But noooo. The Other Woman to whom he could have lied to get her into bed is at fault. Ladies, sure get mad at the woman, too. The other woman is irrelevant to your anger. If this simple logic is not something you gals can get your arms around, no wonder there is so much dysfunction once a woman gets into a relationship.
Karmic: WOW is right. When did I ever say otherwise? Frankly, I blame both of them for their actions. Two people made a choice to betray their spouses and destroy two families. Now both have paid the price for that choice. She is now a single mother with no support and he wants to come home to me but that door is permanently closed. Those are some pretty snide assumptions you are making there, especially considering that I never said anything you could base those on in my comment.
She knew me and our young children. Our kids played together for crying out loud. She is a Narcissistic Gold Digger so, no, she was not some innocent victim that my husband lied to. I like your posts. Most women on this board vilify uncommitted men commitment phobes, man-children, narcissists, etc. The anger seems so disproportionate to the offender.
So you took it upon yourself to inform us of how very deluded we all are without any background information. I could pluck all kinds of things out of the ether and sound off on you for neglecting to mention them. Now see how silly that sounds? Ditto for the rest of us. If you actually care how we feel about something just ask before you criticize, unless criticizing is really all you wanted to do in the first place. Please show me where I said that all men must commit to a woman.
Forgive me for not expounding upon the topic to your satisfaction. Only to vilify the other woman, when the MAN - who was in the relationship with you - should be one vilified. All three of you only mentioned all the details after I challenged what was written. Oh, I vilified him in spades. Was I under some obligation to tell you every tiny detail right off the bat?
Do you get to dictate what we share publicly and when? I took out the majority though admitted not all of my anger on HIM. There is no emotional investment in the woman. She is not someone the wife has a deep attachment to, therefore, it is easier to forgive the guy and blame the outside enemy. Not condoning it, just considering why it might happen.
You felt the relevant details was to name call the woman. I would have commented differently had you and Stephan and Sharon wrote with as much anger towards the man as towards the woman. Duh we can drop this now, right? Have fun. Mine left me for a younger woman as well, after putting us all through total hell for two decades with his drug addiction.
That puts a whole different spin on things. A man in his 40s or 50s is likely either married or divorced. Dude goes through a mid life crisis, leaves wife and kids for a younger POA who makes him feel all youthful again.
Fine wine takes many years to mature, so just think of women my age as a Petrus ' The woman my year-old son brought home may have been 48, but she was also young at heart, attractive and. In other words, while the rule states that year-old women can feel comfortable dating year-old men, this does not reflect the social preferences and standards of women. A 45 year old can have FSH levels of a year old. I don't think Evan goes to see an OB-GYN, so he does not know that there is a mean FSH level plus/minus standard deviation for every age. There are many infertile young women (age ) who have FSH levels of a 45 year old. However, that said, IVF success goes down significantly after
Too late sucker. No take backs! He stuck with her anyway for a while to avoid being alone but he did eventually dump her. I have to admit that it makes me quite happy to see that SHE is now a single mother too because she left her husband to steal mine. Karma is a beautiful thing! Walk a mile Derek, then come back and lecture me on my morality.
My husband left me after 20 years of marriage to be with a 22 year oldHe is 57 years old. The longest, best romantic relationship I ever had was with a much older guy. All that said, we were very much in love and it felt like we were equals. I know that people looked at us and thought things - esp. Well, not rank.
And, it turns out, in our lives. But we never talked about that stuff - we were just into each other and our work together. But it also feels like peace and happiness. I do know many successful May-December couples. The woman is most often the younger, but not always. Gotta get off the internet. My eHarmony guy is gonna call in a few. Not as exciting as Award Man, but very funny, nice.
Older guys: higher social value. I totally buy younger women going for older men. See it all the time. They only plan on being together for 15 years, give or take. Basically a really long LTR or a planned mid-term marriage. Does anyone have a problem with this? He gets what he wants fantasies fulfilled, feels younger, arm candy, whateverand she gets what she wants that is, a comfortable life.
Lance, the only problem is at 60, the old guy will not let the 43 year old go. Can she, yes she can but she has to be wise. I am 53 and am on friendly terms with several women in their 40s, who are keenly looking for someone to settle down with.
Think, 25 year old woman dating 45 year old man can suggest
BUT there are plenty of women, desperately lonely, and will do almost everything to have someone love and care for them. There are many more 40 year old women than there are 40 year old men.
In person as well as online. I have dated ages both ways. Someone who most people know of, Sandra Bullock, has just been voted most beautiful woman in the world in some poll and she is a beauty at 51, and another familiar face, Christie Brinkley is a total knockout at 61, but there are plenty of beauties of that age on match etc.
They have lots of experience and many good years ahead of them.
I was married for 23 yrs before i found out my wife was cheating, I got divorced, then I met her, her family loves me. You want a young woman she wants a young man too. The younger men just want sex. You still look good and feel young, but the only men who want a real relationship with you are over Cause the person at a real loveing level alll you love about themyou watch their body age and them struggle to communicate and talk and it killllls you. Some people actually love the person and the traits that create them and didnt know the age or couldnt tell and then love is there so oh well and too late.