Art Credit: Kitchener Photography. Generally speaking, the rules prevent ardent, true-love seekers from coming on too strong or from tying others down. This means a thirtysomething can finally discard the strange dating rules of a twentysomething and unapologetically pursue love with purpose and intention. In effect, he at times pushed aside who he was and what he valued to accommodate the person he was dating. He is very polite. This led to some shallow relationships that were mostly a waste of time and prolonged his search for me. A thirtysomething realizes that time is precious and stops wasting it on the wrong people.