The almost-relationship is sadly totes normal these days. I have spent as long as a year er, maybe two in half-relationships that were somewhere between a hookup and a romantic, serious relationship. This is partially due to my fear of intimacy and inability to commit, and partially due to the men I choose to spend time with probably also due to my fear of intimacy. Someone I spent far too long with once actually told me, "It was just really nice to pretend to be in a long-term relationship for a while" at the end of our time well terribly spent. I've tried to explain to my dad that "I'm not looking for a relationship" is a normal thing people who are actively dating say nowadays. I don't care how busy they are; if things were going to progress, you'd be hanging more than once a week. If you "find that he doesn't save weekends for you but only schedules a once a week date on a Tuesday night, he's likely not that committed to the relationship," explains Salkin.